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Kukaniloko Birthstone State Monument located in Wahiawa, Hawaii. Picture was taken September 2018 on our 1st family vacation. – Cool Adventure
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4 QUICK TIPS TO START YOUR
FEARLESS JOURNEY
2018 started with admitting the TRUTH. So what was my personal truth? No, it wasn’t that I’m over weight and sitting around the house stuffing myself with cookies & cream ice-cream in the middle of the night, because I am lactose intolerant. Nor, was it being a stress shopper because paying college tuition leaves no space for that addiction. My TRUTH was FEAR!
This 4 letter word has left spaces and cracks in my foundation. This is a foundation that we all have deep in our gut that pushes us to keep trying something until we get it – like riding a bike.
I remember when I was about 8 years old. I was so excited to get a big girl bike. It was the cutest banana seat bike. The bike had a metallic gold frame with metallic gold smiley faces all over the white seat. But of course, I didn’t know how to ride a bike. So one day, my father took me outside and I proudly through my leg over the seat and waited patiently while he tried to figure out if he was going to hold the handle bars or the seat to help balance me. As you sit in anticipation, I dare not hold out any longer. My father decided not to do either one. He just said, “Peddle as hard as you can!” …I did and he let go. The bike moved and I skinned my knees when I landed in the gravel. I repeat, “I skinned my knees!” You can just imagine me with the ugly cry and snot falling – I was devastated! My cute bike ended up sitting in the house for a couple of weeks until my oldest cousin came over. If you could only see my face while I am writing this. Yes, that chick came over and got on my bike and started riding it. She was FEARLESS! Now, I know everyone is waiting for me to say that I got on the bike, but I didn’t. Instead, I looked down at my knees and could still see the scars from where I fell. My foundation became cracked. Did I finally get on the bike? Y ‘all, I did. See, I got sick and tired of sitting on the side watching my cousin have fun riding my bike every time she came over to visit. When I sit back and look at this situation I see that time had not only healed my scars on my knees but also mended the crack in my…
“FEARLESS foundation.
These cracks I keep mentioning are negative experiences that leave us with hurt in some way. We begin to lose the LESS every time we experience a negative part of life. I have been walking around trying to figure out do I need to get rid of fear or just learn to control it. Either way I know that all these cracks in my FEARLESS foundation have caused me to be left in the same place I was years, months, days, hours, and even minutes ago…. FEAR …ugh!
“Everything you want is
on the other side of fear”
Jack Canfield
So why, oh why, do I not just STOP? Y’ all I don’t know. So in 2018, I started rediscovering what I needed. That’s right I was reading daily affirmations, meditating, praying, listening to empowerment audiobooks, I had long talks with my sister-girlfriend, and my Fella. But, the struggle was real nothing had changed. Until I got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was over settling for the excuses why I can’t do.
Being great starts
by being fearless;
Fearless
starts by having faith;
Having faith starts
by letting go.
It’s hard,
but not impossible!
iliketoquote.com
Drum roll please… after 5 years of allowing fear to limit my course to start blogging. I did what my father told me when I first learned to ride a bike. I got on and I’m peddling hard. In other words, I decided to just start.
This blog is just a piece of my FEARLESS journey.
4 Quick Tips to Start your FEARLESS Journey
1. Admit your one personal Truth – writing it in a journal, telling your spouse, significant other, partner, children or a very close friend. You need to speak of it, on it and about it. So that you can deal with your personal truth. Remember this is not a New Year’s Resolution.
2. Take time! Admitting your truth needs to be paired with taking time. When you take time this doesn’t mean closing out your faith and family that genuinely support you. But instead bring them closer and be open with asking for what you need from them. This open line of communication will allow you the time you need to work through your TRUTH.
3. Forgive yourself for taking so long to deal with this TRUTH. At this point, fear had you doing the avoidance dance for some period of time. No matter the duration of time forgiving yourself will allow the scars to heal. Healed scars seal the FEAR cracks that may have formed because of what you have gone through.
4. Just start! Being FEARLESS doesn’t mean you don’t fear anything it just means that you no longer are limiting yourself because something hurt you. Instead you try over and over again, until one day you find your way. More often than not, the way you were thinking or feeling in the beginning will certainly change.
QUESTION: Tell me as you look at your life for 2019 what truth you will admit on your Fearless Journey?
Thank you for allowing me to share and see you next Sunday…. 💙
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