Are you Healing or Distracting Yourself?

Dear Sisters,

“I’m not happy“…yes, simple words that shack my whole core. Do you know how much of YOU can fix this feeling? This isn’t the I didn’t get the toy I want at the store kind of not happy, but the kind that requires healing. To clarify, this is the I’m not happy that comes because you are dealing with someone else’s negative presence and the consequence of their behavior leaves you without. Ladies, your gut knew that relationship was doomed from the beginning but we decide to make excuses to justify why they are behaving in the manner that they are currently. So, I ask you if this is you are you healing or distracting yourself by being in this type of relationship.

You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep rereading the last one. – Unknown

WHAT ARE YOU DOING?

Healing is not jumping from relationship to relationship. Nor, is healing justification, simplification, manipulation, complacency, stagnation or dramatization. Each of these big fancy descriptive words clearly does not make it seem better than it really is. See, for each time you deal with someone’s negative presence you add on more time needed to heal. Then our norm becomes a reaction of scientific proportions. You are the nucleus to your life and you send energy to the things that are in your circle. For example, you are not happy so, you stop doing things that give you peace like eating right, being with family and friends, spending time doing things for yourself. Not doing these things is not healing you, alternatively, they become a distraction. Too often people confuse healing with distractions and wonder why they find themselves in the same toxic situations.

HOW DO I BEGIN?

Healing looks different for everyone and the length of time varies from person to person. It is important to mention that distracting yourself from the hurt and pain through the attachment of another “love intention” is not a form of healing. You are doing yourself and the other person a disservice. In, the fact you cannot give that person your full self because you are not yet whole.

8 Ways to Heal Your Heart

1. Accept, acknowledge & admit what you are feeling.
2. Learn from your past choice to gain insight that might help you with future relationships.
3. Do not dwell on your negative thoughts instead change them to positive ones when they arise.
4. Set some new habits to achieve your goals. Since those plans with your partner now have changed the good news you can now make new plans for your life.
5. Do what makes you happy. You have a passion or passions so why not keep yourself busy by doing what you love.
6. Write down your feelings in a journal. As we all know doing this will help you get your feelings to a better light.
7. Give healing some time. No matter how hard believe me one day you’ll wake up and you won’t feel bad anymore.
8. Go help other people. Helping people and being able to see what a difference to their day you make, be it small or big, will help your self-esteem.

Once you’ve made the decision to move on, don’t look back, You will never find your future in the rear view mirror. – Unknown

In this life, we can go through many heartbreaks, and it’s not about not having any, its about learning the lesson and getting the two most important selfs back yourself & your self-esteem.