Ladies, ladies, ladies…The Dealing with Grown-up Children series is now whining down. Although, this is the case, it doesn’t mean that we won’t cover this topic during other times through out the year.
This series allowed us to see that blended families can and do look different. The dynamics that we experience are molded by the parent’s relationships with their children.
It’s not uncommon for new partners to butt heads over each others adult children. These arguments may come from the children’s lifestyle, parenting abilities, and the big one financial irresponsibility. YOU have now allowed those children to interfere in your relationship with each other.
I’m bopping my head and snapping my figures; in my best Aretha Franklin voice, “RESPECT” – Girl, yes! Know what that means to you… give it and require it.
YOU love him and really desire to have a good relationship. Rather than dwelling on his adult children. Just accept them for who they are. This will keep peace in your home.
Dealing with Grown-up Children Post Series Recaps
Part 1 – “You’re Not Their Mother” The first post of the series. Took a hard look into the fact that even though these are adult children you still will be met with challenges that can be both similar and different from having younger children. There are 7 specific questions you should ask yourself to help navigate through this journey. Check out the post to read more.
Part 2 – “Building Relationships”. This post focused on YOUR relationship with his adult children and what it may look like. Do not compare your relationship to others. Be what the children need you to be. Continue to be involved in important milestones in the children and grandchildren’s lives. Check out the post to read more.
Part 3 – “It’s Okay if YOU Don’t Love Them”. This post brought to light that you shouldn’t feel bad if you don’t LOVE his adult children. However, you do need to care. Caring allows you to be receptive to them. Being liked is a bonus, but being respected is a requirement. Check out the post to read more.
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Good information, very intense. New relationships requires strong and fair personality’s to make a blended family work .
Love your post hope more people understand your views on healthy blended relationships!!
I agree with you wholeheartedly, it does require strong and fair personalities to make a blende family work. As each partner communicates to each other their needs then it opens up doors of understanding that no one will be able to break down. But, the key is that each partner must be all in for making it work. Thank you for reading.