How to Get Your Life Back After Being Quarantined – Relationships to Lose

Being quarantined these last few months brought so much change to the economy, physical realities, and relationship crises. Part 1 of this “Getting Your Life Back After Being Quarantined series we talked about Money, Part 2 we discussed Job Loss, and in Part 3 we will just take a quick glimpse at Relationships that you may need to Lose.

Ladies, let’s get straight to it. Before being quarantined your relationship with your husband, Boo, or Partner in Crime may have been on shaky ground. So, how do you know when to leave it alone. As your big sister I’m here to help you understand where your relationship stands. The only way you can make a relationship SHIFT is to know where you’re at now with the other person.

STABLE RELATIONSHIP

Balanced like a See-Saw. This relationship is stable because it’s rooted in routines and keeping a good hustle so you can maintain the household. There are times when one’s stuff weights more than the other but all in all your life keeps moving forward. While being quarantined one or both have been out of work, and you have found new hobbies, decluttered, watched lots of movies, grilled out, and have worked through some issues that you have been avoiding. This one is a keeper.

RELATIONSHIPS WITH POTINETIAL TO AVOID

Pretty official and cool. In this relationship, you see each other whenever the time is right for both and you are comfortable with each other. While quarantined you did Facetime, Duo, or IM calls. But, if you were the one always calling the other person you may need to think about leaving them be as they have shown you that out of sight out of mind is a priority to them. They aren’t thinking about you nor do they miss you. This one is not a keeper.

However, if the contact was pretty equal then after quarantine restrictions are lifted in your State keep moving forward. This may be a keeper.

RELATIONSHIPS TO LOSE

Your relationship is on the rocks. Both of you are good with or without each other. However, due to laziness, you have chosen not to end it. Well, my dear. You are setting yourself up for an unnecessary moment. Letting him go will leave space for you to get your attitude back together and you never know there maybe someone else at the park climbing over rocks that would be interested in you.

Stuck like a suction cup. You know girl you shouldn’t be with him, but you have every excuse under the moon, stars, clouds, sky, and the sun why you can’t leave him alone. Remember if you let time and a little air hit the back of that suction cup it will fall right off the wall. Therefore, if he tells you that he needs space, y’all are going in two different directions, he doesn’t have time, he wants to see other people, or we’re just friends. Girl, believe him. Don’t ask questions, run to higher ground so that you don’t get stuck and lose even more. This one is not a keeper

Mouse chasing the cheese. Yes, girlfriend, you are the mouse and he is the cheese that’s in the trap. Before being quarantined you would share your stuff with him, but he was very selective on when and what he shared with you. I guarantee you that this behavior didn’t get better while you were quarantined. Remember not every piece of cheese you need to eat. If being with him is killing your energy, JOY, peace, health, and positive mindset….well then. This one is not a keeper.