The Secret to Conquering Disappointment and Reduce Stress in Your Life

Hey, Girl!

How have YOU been feeling lately?  I ask this question because I seem to be surrounded by so many women who are saying that things in their life…just are out of control.  So, do YOU  feel at times that you’re just grasping…grasping for control?  Control of your finances, of your career, of your children, of your homework, of your relationships, of your spirituality, of your life.  If YOU are saying yes to one of these areas…or even if there is something you’re personally dealing with…just know, YOU are not alone.  Right now your guilt-o-meter is probably going off and you’re thinking you just can’t do anything right.

Girl, please! Stop the guilt trip that you’re putting on yourself.  Admitting that you have lost control of your blessings is a fact that is OKAY to say out of your mouth.  See… YOU know you’re blessed that’s why this chaotic, unfulfilling, inadequate, unproductive, frustrating season of life you’re in right now makes you feel what you would label as….stressed.  You know that God, the Universe, or whatever higher power you connect with has provided you with a  family, a job, friends, opportunities… a LIFE.  The truth is stress is not the dominant emotion you’re feeling.  I know you just read that and said, “Then what is it”?  

Okay, I just stated that stress is not the dominant emotional feeling, because there has been times that I didn’t know which direction to go… in this line dance of life.  Everyone is going right and I’m going left…all because of something I didn’t hold myself accountable for.  So, when I managed my money poorly I became disappointed in myself.  When I stayed in emotionally unhealthy relationships I became disappointed in myself.  When I would arrive to work late and was disorganized  I became disappointed in myself.  When I went to church and gave 1 or 2 dollars in the offering, and then, I would have the nerve to sit in the same worship service and replay nonsignificant thoughts instead of giving God time I became disappointed in myself. I didn’t change my behavior.  I just spiraled.

The definition of disappointment:  sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one’s hopes and expectations.

My disappointment in myself caused me to spiral out of control which brought on the secondary feeling of being stressed. I did it to myself.  I started to see my unhealthy patterns and started owning my mess.  YOU have responsibilities, so take care of those things first!  Start off small and build up.  It takes longer to get out of a mess than it is to get in it.  Don’t get distracted with the minutia.  Our social and financial obligations dictate most of our behavior, while the remainder of our choices are constrained by our FEAR.  Life then becomes a series of things that just happen to us and this can get overwhelming.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.  YOU can conquer this season of chaos.  YOU can take back control.  Give yourself time, admit what you have done, forgive yourself for the poor choice, start taking action, re-evaluate what you are doing so that you stay in line with your responsibility requirements, educate yourself; and listen to that quite voice inside you.